Marriage isn’t a battlefield. It’s not a place to test how much pain, anger, or revenge a human heart can endure. Yet, every other week, we wake up to horrifying news — a wife who poisoned her husband, a husband who beat his wife to death, or couples who set each other ablaze in moments of rage.
Recently there is a news of a woman who is alleged to have set her husband ablaze after an argument. Whether this is later confirmed to be true or not, a life has been lost.
No matter the offence, no one deserves to die in the name of marriage. If a partner becomes unbearable, walk away. Separation — though painful — is always better than a prison sentence or a graveyard visit.
We must start telling ourselves the truth:
👉 If you can’t tolerate his attitude, don’t marry him.
👉 If you can’t respect her when she’s angry, don’t marry her.
👉 If you can’t handle the storms of communication, ego, or financial strain, stay single until you can.
Marriage doesn’t fix temperaments — it exposes them. Love alone isn’t enough; patience, emotional maturity, forgiveness, and self-control are the silent pillars that keep a home standing when love starts to wobble.
Too many people are getting married for the wrong reasons — pressure, loneliness, lust, or societal expectations. Then when reality hits, frustration replaces affection, and resentment breeds violence.
Let’s normalize choosing peace over pretense. It’s not weakness to walk away from what drains you. It’s strength.
So please — before you say “I do,” ask yourself:
>“Can I truly live with this person’s flaws without turning into a monster myself?”
If the honest answer is no, then don’t do it. It’s better to be single and sane than married and murderous.
What do you think — is intolerance or poor emotional management the bigger cause of domestic violence today?
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